Agree to mediate

Does that mean you and your spouse have to be buddy-buddy in order to mediate effectively? No. But it does mean that you should have a meaningful conversation about it. Go over the pros and cons of mediation, as opposed to other methods such as litigation.

In those initial conversations, you’ll also want to talk about logistics. Will you split the fees? What dates and times can you commit to the sessions? Deciding at the start will help later.